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July 21, 2018 will be forever engraved in my mind as the best day of my life. I’ve never felt such an overflow of joy & love than on this very special day. Ever since I can remember, I’ve dreamed of this day, how I would look & how I would feel & if it would be as magical as I had worked it up in my head to be. Let me tell you that it was everything I ever dreamed of & more. All the days spent planning & dreaming of this day & even all the money spent was so worth it in the end. My wedding day was pure magic, & I felt such a sense of accomplishment knowing that I planned each & every detail on my own. (With the encouragement & approval of my now HUSBAND, Ben, of course.)
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For a bit of back story, Ben & I live in Richmond, VA. We decided to have a destination wedding in Harpswell, Maine on his family property that is right on the water. One of the perks to having our wedding on family property is that we were free to do literally whatever we wanted. I spent hours just roaming the property & dreaming up how to use the space, make it my own, & transform the already incredible land into the venue of my dreams.
We loved that this wedding was one of a kind. No one had ever gotten married at the spot where we did & it felt so special. I think Taylor Swift said it best when she sang, “Right there where we stood was holy ground.”
Having such a clean slate to work with not only meant that I could dream up the physical transformation of the space, but also that we could choose whatever vendors we wanted & customize everything. Now I know this may seem like a nightmare to some people, but this was heavenly for me. Now it was time to dream big, make plans, & get it done.
M y P l a n n i n g
M V P s
I did all the planning & researching on my own, but that’s not to say I didn’t use some very helpful tools that are out there & available for anyone to use. Let me share with you my planning MVPs.
The Wedding Wire App
This was the app I found to have the best wedding checklist out there. I actually used this throughout my entire planning process. It provides the most detailed list I’ve found & let’s you check things off once you’ve completed them. This app also tells you when to do each task & if things are overdue. It was a lifesaver.
I know this sounds like a no brainer, but literally this app has changed the wedding planning game. One of the biggest tips I can give to brides who are just starting to plan their wedding but don’t really know what direction to take, is to first just pin everything you like. Seriously, go crazy. Then, go back & skim through your board. What colors did you pin the most? What style, feel, & theme stands out from the rest? Usually, you can start to find a common thread among the random ones, so then just delete the pins that don’t match the others. Just as you don’t go to Target knowing what you want to get, Target tells you what you need, Pinterest can show you what you like the most & help you narrow down your ideas.
One more huge Pinterest tip is find list of things that brides usually forget. These lists are so helpful. Stay ahead & learn from past brides.
Doing your own flowers but you don’t know how? There’s a video for that. Corsages are tricky. There’s a video for that. How do you mix fresh & silk flowers to make an arbor dressing? There’s a video for that.
You get the picture. There are endless videos with so much great information out there. When in doubt, search YouTube.
We found so many amazing detail pieces for our wedding at Goodwill. Over the course of our engagement, my family members & I found over 90 brass candlesticks that we used on the tables for our reception. I don’t know if you know this, but those things can be SO expensive. We went to antique shops & found sets of two going for $50-$80! On the flip side, at Goodwill, we found 3 for $5.25 or something along those lines, which was a lifesaver.
These were so helpful for me especially while planning a wedding in Maine while living in Virginia. I found both our photographer & our videographer, which are both INCREDIBLE through instagram hashtags like, #mainewedding, #maineweddingvideographer, #maineweddingphotographer, etc.
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One of the hardest parts of planning a wedding are the finances. It’s quite difficult knowing where you are wanting to spend your money. Something that really helped Ben & me in the beginning was writing down the different aspects of the wedding & then ranking them based on importance. This helped show us where it was worth spending a little extra money. For us, a great band for the reception was at the top of our list, so it didn’t hurt as bad to spend the extra money on an incredible band because we knew how important it was to the both of us. We also knew that since it was a destination wedding for most of the guests, & that many people would not be able to make it, that having a really good photographer & videographer there to capture our day was very important to us. That way, we could share our magical day even with friends & family who were unable to make the trip.
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Overall, I absolutely loved planning the most dreamy day of my life. It was truly ours. No one knows you & your partner better than yourselves, so if you’re thinking about planning it on your own, but are not sure if you can do it, let me tell you, YOU CAN! I’m also currently taking on clients to help you create your very own wedding vision. I would love to help you make your day as dreamy as my was for me. If you need help narrowing down your ideas or even just a consultation on wedding planning, because sometimes you just need a plan for your planning, I’m here to help. If your interested, shoot me an email here & we can talk about what this means for you.
Wedding planning does not have to be stressful. It can be such a wonderful experience. My husband & I laugh that literally the day after our wedding I was saying that I needed my sisters & my friends to get married ASAP so I can plan the next wedding. It’s such a special process for a life changing day.
All photos for this post were taken by our incredible wedding photographer: Emily Delamater.
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This is just post #1 of an entire week of wedding content! Come back tomorrow to read about how I chose my wedding dress!