My Thoughts On Change

My Thoughts On Change

My Thoughts On Change
My Thoughts On Change
My Thoughts On Change

Change Is All Around Us

The idea of change has been on my mind lately. We experience change on a daily basis. It’s constantly happening all around us like the change of seasons, changing our clothes, a change in our schedule, or even the change in others that affects us in one way or another. Why then, if we experience change around us all the time,  do we sometimes find change so difficult to cope with? Let me share with you my thoughts on the matter.

My Thoughts On Change
My Thoughts On Change
My Thoughts On Change
My Thoughts On Change

Get Your Head In The Game

I’ve been contemplating the different reactions I tend to have to change. On the one hand, when change occurs that tends to lean in my favor, I get excited & think of all of the reasons why this change was so good. The flip side to that is that when the change seems to have the slightest negative effect on me or my surroundings, a feeling of dread comes over me. This seemingly negative change that happens makes me feel out of control & sometimes even angry. But why does it have to be that way? Why does some change excite me while other times change makes me want to cry? I believe it’s all in the mindset.

I think it’s finding the excitement in change no matter if it’s good change or bad change. Granted, it’s much easier to find the excitement in the good change, but I think there can be reasons for excitement to be found in the midst of “bad” change. Let me give you an example of how I’ve been dealing with in this in my personal life recently:

Real Talk

Ben is now in his third week of being a police recruit, & starts police academy next month. He used to work with me as a dancer & then as a teacher at the ballet, which meant our schedules aligned well, we worked in the same building, & we could relate to each other on that level so well. Now that he is starting this new job, I’m beginning to see that that means lots of change is ahead for me. It all hit me at once, because prior to this moment I was just so full of excitement for Ben & his new dream job. I was suddenly aware of all of the ways our lives could change. To be honest, I panicked. I started thinking of all the negative things I could think of which took me down a long spiral of fear & feeling out of control. Then I went to sleep & chose not to think about it for the next few days.

My Theory

Then a few days later, I was driving to work when I had this thought,

“What if I could change my approach to negative change & find creative ways to get excited about any & every change that comes my way?”

I honestly think putting this theory into action could change my life. This is a game changer! Thinking like this is empowering & really makes me put things into perspective. Instead of seeing all of the changes that are bound to happen in my life & in our marriage as bad, I’m doing some soul searching & trying to approach the situation from a different angle.

So..maybe we won’t get to go on an international trip this next year, that means we will maybe get to see some amazing places on the east coast that we have never seen before. Maybe our schedule that I’ve grown to love so much is going to change, that just means we get to start from scratch & make a whole new schedule & fill it with whatever we want. We get to sit down & talk about what is most valuable to use & brainstorm ways to spend time together & be there for each other like never before.

My Thoughts On Change
My Thoughts On Change
My Thoughts On Change
My Thoughts On Change
My Thoughts On Change

What About You?

Do you see what I mean? I really think, as abstract as it may seem in the moment, that positives can be found hidden in every change that happens, we just have to be willing & creative enough to see them & then choose to become excited about them.

How do you deal with change? I would love to start a conversation in the comments below about change. Everyone experiences change, & it’s not always easy, so if you have any thoughts or insights on this topic that you would be willing to share with the F&F community, I know we could all benefit from them. Thank you in advance!

My Thoughts On Change
My Thoughts On Change

Outfit Details

New Fav Cream Sweater, Color Block Skirt, The Best Fall Boots, Bag, Camel Coat


Bride & Groom’s Wedding Highlights

Why I Loved Being My Own Wedding Planner

Choosing My Wedding Dress

My Bridesmaids

Our Florals

The Dream Team

Dressing The Space

D O N ’ T   F O R G E T   T O  
C H E C K   O U T   M Y   N E W   I N   P A G E !

W A N N A   R E A D  
   M Y   H O N E Y M O O N   P O S T S ?




M O R E   R E C E N T   P O S T S

We Went On A Fall Adventure

27 Things I’ve Learned In My 27 Years

The Timeless Tweed Dress

The Skirt Worth The Wait

Feminine Animal Print

My Go-To Fall Outfit

Affordable Classic Fall Pieces

How To Find Quality Pieces At Affordable Prices


L E T ’ S   C O N N E C T !

Instagram / Twitter / Pinterest / Facebook / Bloglovin’

“Let’s go on an adventure.”

“So often we are faced with something that frightens or overwhelms us and seek to evade the problem with the excuse: ‘I’m not quite ready for that now.’ It may require some sacrifice, or demand our obedience in some area…God says, ‘Lift up the hands that hang down.’ March straight through the flood, and behold! The waters will divide, the Red Sea will open, the Jordan will part, and the Lord will lead you through to victory.
         – Streams in the Desert

This is exactly what I needed to be reminded of this week.
As most of you know, our season at Richmond Ballet ended last week, so I am supposed to be on summer lay-off, and boy, was I going to take that literally! I had planned on sitting on my couch or bed almost all day working on my blog or reading or playing with my kitty, but God had other plans…
You see, I didn’t originally want to stay in Richmond for my lay-off.  I had hopes of making trips to both NYC and Boston to see friends, but neither one happened because of either money or bad scheduling and no where to stay.  Instead, my roommate and I and my kitten and his brother we are cat-sitting were planning on getting lots of quality time together over the next couple of weeks.
And we had one day.
Then I got the call.
My company manager called me on Tuesday and asked me if I would be interested in doing a side job in Washington DC for the next week and a half.  She told me it was a tango piece and that we would be performing at the Kennedy Center next weekend!
Any normal human would be so thrilled for this opportunity, but what did I find in my heart? Fear and an unsettling lack of control.
One reason I was upset to begin with was that my boyfriend, Jared, who is coming to visit me for a week (blog post to come for sure) is coming the weekend of the performances, which means I will miss a day and a half with him.  Also, I was so excited about making some great progress on the look and flow of my blog which I wouldn’t have time to do anymore.  And don’t forget about my quality time on my couch and bed with the kitties and some roommate time! 
So in that moment, while on the phone, I felt this urge to say no and cry and stay in bed for the next week.  I told her I needed an hour to think it through and process everything.
I called my mom and cried, but in the end decided it would be wise to say yes, even though everything inside me fought against it.  I really liked my “plan” for my lay-off, and dancing with principal dancers from all over the country (while little Lauren over here just got hired into a company this year) was a terrifying thought.  But I said yes anyways.
The next morning (6 am to be exact), I drove up to DC for an audition and to work with the choreographer to see if he would like to put me in his piece.  I wasn’t going to hear whether I got the job or not until the very end of the day.  I met a whole new group of incredible dancers and learned a pas de deux, and while it was all going pretty well, I felt tears filling my eyes.  When lunch time came, I went to Starbucks because I needed some energy and some peace.  Once I had my iced coffee in my hand and got back in the car, but I was in no rush to get back to the studios.  I read the above passage from my Streams in the Desert book and I instantly understood.  
Maybe this was why all of my travel plans for my time off fell through.  Maybe God had plans to take me on an adventure.
All last week I talked to my roommate about how I love asking God to give me the faith to receive the incredible, and this was that exact moment.  I had a choice, do I take a step in faith, knowing that His righteousness goes before us and prepares the way, and open my heart to receive something incredible from the Lord, or do I shut down in fear and cling to control by staying on my couch with the kitties? 
I continued to ask for that kind of faith every moment fear arose in those last few hours of my audition day.  “Give me the faith to receive the incredible.  Receive YOUR incredible.  Give me borderless trust.  Take me on an adventure.”
Guess what?…I got the job.  I am now a member of Chamber Dance Project and will be performing at the Kennedy Center next weekend! Is this real life?
So here I am, in DC, on a crazy adventure with the Lord doing exactly what he has called me to do.  I still have the fear that I’m not quite ready for this yet, but God has put me in awe of his timing and provision this whole time! (3 days so far)
We finished rehearsals a little bit early today so I decided to go do a little sightseeing on my own.  My favorite new spot?  The World War II Memorial fountain.  I literally could have sat with my feet dipped in it for hours today if not for the fear of my car getting towed!  It was so peaceful.  
There were so many people, but the noise of the water almost cancelled everything out.  I just sat there in “silence” and thanked the Lord for the adventure He is taking me on! 
I say all of this to urge you to make this your prayer.  I am still figuring out what it really means, but it’s taking me places I never thought I would go.
Lord, give us the faith to receive the incredible things you want to give us.  Open our eyes to your glory all around us and open our hearts to the things we need to be obedient to in order for you to lead us to victory.  

Already excited to hear what kinds of amazing adventures He takes you on.
~ L