Friday Five – All Things Rose

Hello Everyone!

Man, it feels like forever since my last Friday Five! I hope you all are having a great week so far. I wanted to leave this post for you today, while I am currently on a bus heading to the Outer Banks for my first tour stop of the season. (Follow me on tour via my Instagram story!) Over the moon just thinking about performing again.

But back to this post…it’s no secret that this summer my love for rose scented things has exploded. Today I have gathered up some of my favorite products for you & I want to specifically talk about five stand outs.

1. Rose Oil Blend

This product is a holy grail in my skincare routine. I use this oil every 3 days mixed into my night cream for extra moisture. This oil is such a perfect match for my skin. I always look forward to using this beautiful product. (Btw, updated skincare routine coming soon.)

2. Roses Candle

I purchased this candle in Paris earlier this summer, & boy is it dreamy! It’s the perfect floral scent that fills the entire room. The best part…the smell lingers without even being lit! Such a great addition to my desk.

3. Rose Hibiscus Facial Mist

This mist is my go-to when my face just needs that extra something. The mister on this bottle is perfection, as long as you hold your breath while spraying. It’s hydrating without leaving any residue on the skin, & the scent…to die for!

4. Metallic Rose Gloss

This gloss is my secret weapon. It’s such a gorgeous shade of pink with the perfect amount of shimmer. You can always find this gloss in my purse because it instantly dresses up any outfit for whatever unexpected events come my way. One of my all time favorites.

5. Rose Green Tea

I spoke about this yummy tea in my Africa post earlier this summer, and have been drinking it ever since. I first fell in love with this tea at a museum cafe in Benin, & then finally purchased some while in Paris. It’s floral, without being too floral, & just so refreshing. With fall just around the corner & Tea Time Tuesdays approaching, I know this tea is here to stay!

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Friday Five – Perfect Your Parisian Summer Wardrobe

Friday Five - Perfect Your Parisian Summer Wardrobe

Hello Everyone!

Ah…Paris…was it all a dream?

I can’t believe I was really there! It was all so beautiful. All I wanted to do was jump from café to café, sipping on delicious noisette, while watching the unique people & fashion of this great city. I’ve decided that no amount of visiting will ever satisfy my Parisian craving…I must live here (even for 3 months) someday. I desperately want to embody the Parisian woman, & know the city inside & out. I want to know the non-touristy parts of the city & go where the locals go. This also means I must learn French. (Eek! Come on Duolingo…but for real this time.) The determined dreamer in me will make it happen!

Although, since I don’t live in Paris at the moment *sigh* I’ve decided that I can start to embody the Parisian woman (her style, how she eats, her habits, her seemingly effortless glamour) right here in Richmond, VA.

Today I’m starting with first things first: the Parisian wardrobe.

I didn’t want to go for the typical, cliché black dress or striped shirt sort of thing. From what I’ve gathered, the Parisian woman never wants to look over the top, her hair is never done to a T (thank goodness!), & she always looks as though she just threw something on & it’s no big deal (but inside, she knows she looks good).

So here are 5 things I just “threw on” (not really…totally planned for weeks) while in Paris. These items will help me bring my inner Parisian wherever I am.

1. The Classy Sundress

Remember this dress? It was one of the choices for my Easter dress! You guys didn’t choose this one, but I secretly fell in love with it so I had to buy it! (Along with my actual Easter dress of course.) I had been saving it for the perfect occasion, & it just screamed Paris. I’m absolutely in love with the colors on this dress. The pastels against the natural white color are gorgeous, and they actually make me look quite tan! The length, combined with the one shouldered ruffle detail make this dress super classy, never giving too much away, while still being feminine & put together.

Friday Five - Perfect Your Parisian Summer Wardrobe

Friday Five - Perfect Your Parisian Summer Wardrobe

Friday Five - Perfect Your Parisian Summer Wardrobe

Friday Five - Perfect Your Parisian Summer Wardrobe


2. The Perfect Mule

There’s no question that the mule trend is in full swing (& I hope it’s here to stay!). I found these mules at Forever 21 just a few days before I left the country. As I tried on my outfits for Paris for the last time (total planner…how un-Parisian of me…oops), these shoes flawlessly went with every single outfit! They just worked. Basically I wore these shoes all over Paris. They are super comfortable and so easy to walk in. Even on the cobblestone roads of Paris, the shoes performed beautifully. You need a pair of these to effortlessly pull an outfit together.

Friday Five - Perfect Your Parisian Summer Wardrobe

Friday Five - Perfect Your Parisian Summer Wardrobe

Friday Five - Perfect Your Parisian Summer Wardrobe

Friday Five - Perfect Your Parisian Summer Wardrobe


3. The Bardot Top

Here’s another trend that can be seen everywhere, but it just makes sense why. How gorgeous & sexy (without being slutty) is this top? I love that the material is a little bit more crisp, & the flowy sleeves with the tie detail are the icing on the cake. The perfect way to spice up a basic white shirt. I tucked mine into this ruffled tulle skirt (because I love to wear tutus…I am a ballerina through & through), but it can also easily be styled with a nice pair of jeans or a pair of culottes. This is a true staple to add to your wardrobe. Wear it, & let out your inner Parisian woman.

Friday Five - Perfect Your Parisian Summer Wardrobe

Friday Five - Perfect Your Parisian Summer Wardrobe

Friday Five - Perfect Your Parisian Summer Wardrobe


4. The Lemon Drop

Yellow can be a tricky color to wear (anyone else find it difficult?), but I say find your shade & wear proudly. I’ve found that this lemon shade works best on my skin tone, & boy, did I feel so cute & summery wearing my lemon romper! Put in the work (behind the scenes like a true Parisian) to find what shade works best for you. Then wear it nonchalantly, letting others be amazed that you can pull off that color so well. It’s really fun! I promise you can do it. Rock it!

Friday Five - Perfect Your Parisian Summer Wardrobe

Friday Five - Perfect Your Parisian Summer Wardrobe

Friday Five - Perfect Your Parisian Summer Wardrobe


5. The Face-Covering Sunnies

These sunnies are my ride or die sunglasses. They are huge, without being obnoxious & bought at a reasonable price. Undoubtedly, they are Céline “Tilda” dupes, but I don’t care…I love them! They are perfect face coverers, great for masking the early-morning-no-makeup-coffee-runs, the times you can’t control the tears in public, & the secret people watching (or staring). Grab a pair of large or cat eye sunnies, & pair them with your favorite red lipstick, and transform into a calm, cool, & collected Parisian woman (whether you are those things or not).

Friday Five - Perfect Your Parisian Summer Wardrobe

Friday Five - Perfect Your Parisian Summer Wardrobe

Friday Five - Perfect Your Parisian Summer Wardrobe

Friday Five - Perfect Your Parisian Summer Wardrobe

Friday Five - Perfect Your Parisian Summer Wardrobe


These items totally bring out my inner Parisian woman.

What articles of clothing are inspiring you at the moment? xx

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Benin + Friday Five Beauty Heroes Abroad

Hello Everyone!

Instead of breaking up my trip to Benin into several small posts, I decided to write one massive post instead. I wish I could talk to you all individually about how amazing and eye opening this trip was for me, but since that’s not possible, let’s pretend right now that we are sitting together in a cozy coffee shop, mug in hand (go ahead grab one & settle in…we are gonna be here for a while), and let me take you day by day, moment by moment on this incredible and once in a lifetime journey I just encountered.

Day 1: Travel

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Ben & I left Richmond & our two cats & dog (we missed them so much!) on Tuesday afternoon & drove about two hours up to Washington D.C. in my little Mini Cooper to Dulles Airport. Upon arriving, we met up with Ben’s sister, Abby, & got snacks & a drink before boarding my very first international flight. It was an overnight flight, & being the planner that I am, I was determined to sleep the whole flight. I took one Advil PM & curled up in my blanket (even though the plane was scorchingly hot) with my sleeping mask on to then find out that they were serving dinner! I had never had a meal on a flight before (except that one time I got bumped to first class, which was so cool), & it was free, so I had to stay awake to eat it. Abby also convinced me to get some red wine, & I thought it would help me fall asleep. Literally seconds after pouring my first glass, I spilled it all over my jeans & blanket & Ben (sorry…). Of course. I blame the Advil PM. I quickly passed the rest of the wine off to her to finish, ate my free food, & desperately tried to fall asleep. Listening to Ólafur Arnalds, I tossed & turned for the next four hours cuddled up with my blanket & the smell of red wine. Lovely. This flight, maybe because it was my first one, seemed to last an eternity (7.5 hours in reality), but finally we landed in Paris.

Our layover was something like five hours long & we all slept and hour or two more on the ground of the Paris airport. An hour before boarding, we found these amazing lounge chairs that looked out a giant window where we sat & watched planes roll in & out until it was time for us to board.

The flight from Paris to Cotonou, Benin was infinitely better than the first. For one, there was airflow which made a world of difference, & two, I was free to stay awake. I switched off reading my book (How To Be Parisian Wherever You Are) & watching season 3 of Jane The Virgin (which is so good and I am only half way done with it) and between the two (along with all the snacks & beverages Air France continued to serve) I was quite occupied. If that wasn’t enough, I had a whole spa package prepared for Abby & I to do in-flight. Disregarding all strange looks, we did sheet masks, moisturizers, facial mists, lip scrubs, hand & cuticle care, & the like. Maybe it was a little much, but my skin was very happy afterwards. I would totally do it again.

We made it to Cotonou around 9 PM on Wednesday night, greeted Ben’s mom (who we were visiting, seeing as though she works at the U.S. Embassy in Benin), & quickly headed off to bed to get a good night’s sleep after a long twenty-something hours of travel.

Day 2: Getting Acquainted

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Finally, after sleeping at least 11 hours, we woke up ready for our first full day in Benin. I showered to get the “travel” off, and applied a new product to my hair: Best Day Ever. It is a dream come true for curly hair like mine, especially in the heat and humidity of Western Africa. I gladly used this product every single day while in Benin & it worked wonders on defining my curls, adding shine, & taming the majority of the frizz. It smells good, feels good, & doesn’t break the bank. *2 thumbs up*

I also slipped on my new bracelet from Guacamaya Tribal. The moment I saw it, I fell in love with the colors delicately woven in it, but decided to wait until my trip to wear it. The shades of pink, blue, white, & green flowed perfectly with my color palette I chose for this trip. I didn’t opt for wearing much jewelry while in Benin, but this bracelet was just the accessory I needed to complete my outfit. I love this brand not only for perfectly accessorizing me, but also for ensuring that all of their products are fair trade, and a portion of the benefits go to help provide full-time jobs for local artisans in Latin America.

For our first outing, we went to lunch at Hôtel du Lac for lunch. We ordered a Lebanese spread for the table as well as a Beninese dish consisting of chicken & rice in a tomato sauce of sorts. While. at lunch, we met up with a family friend, Yanick, who is a native to Benin. He is such a talented photographer, whose strength is capturing people in their habitat. He captures raw humanity to a T. (Check out his work here & here.)

After lunch, Yanick took us on a small walk in the city where we started to get a feel for the culture & people. The fashionista in me came out while people watching & noticing the same trends & silhouettes popular right now in the states clearly displayed on the people in West Africa. The only difference: fabric, but more on that later…

Later that afternoon, Ben & I had a rehearsal at the U.S. Embassy in Benin for a performance we would have there the next day. We had the amazing opportunity to bring classical ballet to a part of the world where the majority have only ever seen it in movies, if ever. After rehearsing for a few hours, we attended an outdoor Embassy employee meeting, ate a quick dinner at home, & went to sleep at a decent hour to get ready for our big performance the next day.

Day 3: Buying Fabric & Performing

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We woke up to a delicious breakfast which included the most amazing fresh pineapple & mango I have ever eaten. Seriously still dreaming about it. Then I slicked my hair back into a French twist & we were off. Before arriving at the Embassy, we stopped by a local vendor who sells handmade, hand-dyed fabrics. The owner’s name was none other than James Taylor. Perfect.

I found a gorgeous fabric that I instantly fell in love with, & if you’ve been following me recently, I have been trying to incorporate red into my life & my wardrobe, so it’s only fitting that the fabric I picked out was red & white. I plan on bringing it back to Oklahoma with me in July & enlisting my grandma’s help to make a skirt out of it. I’ll keep you posted…

The performance at the U.S. Embassy went so well. It was so special getting to dance with Ben again. He is so strong & took such great care of me (on stage & in life for that matter).

After the performance, some of the Embassy employees in turn showed us some of the dances from Benin, & asked us to come on stage & do it with them! (Mind you, I was in an all pink outfit: leotard, tights, skirt, & pointe shoes…total ballerina trying to learn an African dance…I can only imagine what I looked like.) What a cool experience! They could move in ways I have never seen before with lots of shoulder isolations & gyrations. I loved every second of it.

We then went home, changed, & packed our bags for a night away in Sakété (which was 2 hours away). Once we arrived, we met up with Jon & Ashley and they took us to their home where we would be staying. They are amazing people who moved from the U.S. all the way to Benin to love, nurture, & provide a family for the sweet kids at the Center. Over a taco dinner, I listened to them tell their amazing story of God’s perfect provision in their lives & over this orphanage. Those are some of my very favorite stories to hear. I’ll never forget it. (If you want to know more about the Center or would like to make a donation to help support their amazing work, leave me a comment below or send me an email. I did not include in photos because I decided to be present with the kids while I was there.)

Day 4: Orphanage in Sakété

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I woke up early the next morning in Sakété to the sound of roosters announcing the start of a new day.

The only “makeup” I decided to apply on this day (but I wore it every other day as well, just not exclusively) was my Almay Smart Shade tinted moisturizer. I love this moisturizer because it doesn’t leave my skin feeling greasy after applying it, just perfectly moisturized, perfectly tinted, perfectly sun protected, & perfectly age defying. (15 SPF & anti-aging properties…score)

After my morning coffee & a chocolate croissant we brought from the city, Yanick took us on a walk through the village we were staying in. Just a few feet out the front door & already children are coming up to us saying, “Yovo” (white people). They don’t speak English, most of them speak French (I definitely should have kept up with my Duolingo better…) so I greet them, “Bonjour!” I reach out & shake their hands while they stare back with what seems like disbelief. I point to my camera as though to ask them if I can take their picture, & most of them let me. They always wanted to see the pictures afterwords. They thought that was the coolest thing. Then I would wave saying, “Au revoir!” & continue my walk.

This happened multiple times because, I mean, we were “yovo”. But sometimes they just wanted to play & hang out with us so we started dancing with them. This was Ben’s jam! He lead them in clap rhythms, dance moves, & even some ballet moves, & the kids were eating it up. I truly believe they would’ve kept following us & dancing with us all day if we had stayed there! This was hands down my favorite part of my trip.

Along with hanging out with the kids during our walk, we also were invited into people’s homes & stores. It was incredible to be able to see into the lives of these people. They didn’t have much, but they were some of the most joyful people I have ever encountered. Truly blessed by this experience.

After our walk, we drove to the Center to hang out with the kids. Ben & I had the opportunity to dance for them and show them bits into the life of a dancer. I let them all try on my pointe shoes afterwards & and listened to their sounds of pain & discomfort while attempting to go en pointe. (I forget how hard it was at first!) Similarly to the exchange we had at the U.S. Embassy, the kids showed us their Beninese dance moves after our performance. They were so good! The kids would take turns in a dance-off fashion, where they would go into the middle of the floor in pairs & work it! Again with the shoulder isolations which I have yet to master.

I could have stayed there forever (especially if any of the French I learned would have kicked in), but that afternoon, we made the very bumpy 2 hour drive back to Cotonou. We had a chill evening to digest the events of the day.

Day 5: Performance for Church Congregation & Waterside Evening

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So it’s Sunday now, & the word that we are ballet dancers has gotten ’round. We were asked to perform (for the 3rd day in a row) for a Beninese church congregation smack dab in the middle of their service! We were told that the service started at 10 AM so we arrived promptly at 9:50 AM to be able to see the floor we would be dancing on & to make any adjustments to the choreography if need be. Well, we said goodbye to that plan when, upon arrival, we were escorted to the front row of the service that was well underway! I thought…maybe this is the early service & they are running late?…this is probably the end of the service…right? Wrong. Twenty minutes into singing (which was already making me emotional) Ben & I were taken outside to a storage closet to get changed. There we were told that they would be back in 5-10 minutes to take us back to perform! This news did not sit well with me. My heart was pounding & my mind was racing just thinking about all of the ways this was not a part of my plan: I was not dressed, I was not warm, we had not worked out any adjustments necessary for the floor (which was comprised of tile floor with a small square of carpet in the middle). Basically I was freaking out. My eyes started to fill with tears out of all the uncertainty & fear & changes to my (perfect) plan, not to mention the aforementioned emotions from the worship service. I let out my tears while quickly stretching my calves & tying up my ribbons, while Ben’s calm, sure voice kept reassuring me that everything was going to be fine & I should take my time & do what I need to do. I dried up my tears & came to terms with the fact that this was happening, & that the Lord would keep my cold bones & joints safe during the performance. (We are in a church, right?) We walked out the door & Ben carried me on his back (as to not get my pointe shoes dirty) to return to the service where we were immediately introduced & brought to the stage. At this point (like in every other performance we had done up to this point) we would both talk to the audience about what we would be dancing, & share with them that is is our full time job & what it entails, etc. Ben, knowing me well, did not have me speak to them, but did the whole introduction himself. *thank you* Our Nutcracker music starts as he takes my hands & looks me in the eyes with a smile, & at that point, I’m sure (that I love him) that we are going to get though this together. I’m finally calm. We start dancing carefully trying to keep anything en pointe in the tiny square of carpet in the middle of the stage. It’s going well! We are doing it! My body is ok! Then comes the crescendo in the music with the big lifting sequence, & we realize in that moment (still performing) that we had given them the wrong track! There is a whole extra phrase of music on this one! So he turns me away from the audience where I quickly say, “Wanna do that again?”, and he sweeps me away to the corner for a grand repeat! We gracefully finished the performance, & took our bow. Never in my dance career have I felt more like a professional dancer than in those epic 20 minutes.

After the church service, we went home & changed before driving down another very bumpy beach road on our way to a relaxing time at Bab’s Dock. We go to the first location by car, but then waited for a small boat to take us across the lake to the actual dock. It was so nice to be on the water! The cool breeze was so refreshing. We arrived at the dock, found a table outside right next to a rather entertaining donkey (to say the least) & had a cold beer & French fries (which was exactly what I needed). We hung out, talked, hammocked, & people watched for the next few hours while totally forgetting we were in Africa.

Day 6: Traditional Head Wrapping

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On this Monday morning, I had the opportunity to watch & photograph a new friend, Jessica, have her hair wrapped in a very traditional headscarf. It was amazing! Nami from Coket’rie des Echarpes is such an artist! The intricate details of folding & twisting were just magical atop Jessica’s head. I was in awe. After she was finished, she turned around to me & asked me if I would like one too?! Of course I said yes! As I sat in the chair anxiously waiting for the work of art to be created on me, out walks Nami with my fabric in the most gorgeous shade of yellow with metallic stitches throughout. (How did she know I was such an avid metallic lover?!) I could barely contain my excitement, so when she asked me if it was tight enough, I told her it felt a little bit loose on my right side. (It was not.) Then she gave it one final crank (which gave me a headache for the next 2 hours…beauty is pain right?!) before finishing the top with a beautiful flower design. I proudly wore this magnificent creation for the entirety of the day.

While I was at Coket’rie des Echarpes, I bought a beautiful yellow off the shoulder top decked out with pink pink flowers & 3/4 length tie sleeves. (I’m sure you’ll find it on my Instagram soon)

As mentioned earlier, I loved seeing current trends seen back home, come to life in a different way in Benin. For instance, in the U.S., I would have probably gone for that same off the shoulder tie sleeved top, but maybe in a white or a blue & white stripe or something (simple) like that. But in Benin, the patterned fabrics, even mixing patterns, & bright colors are the predominate trend. But not even trend, more like their culture. Fabric is such a part of their lives. One of the best gifts to receive in Benin would be fabric, which then you would take to your tailor & have something made for you (or your whole family depending on how much fabric was given). Vito, the man who brought us to his church to perform, even had matching outfits made (hat included) for he & Ben to show his appreciation for our art. What an honor!

We then went to lunch at the café inside Fondation Zinsou (artwork on head included). It was inside this lovely café where I found myself in a tea. Who would have thought that I would have to travel all the way to Cotonou, Benin to find my favorite tea?! But alas, I did! It’s a rose green tea & it’s divine. (yes, you need it!)

To top off an already super cool day, we went home to cook a rather fancy meal in order to host two wildlife specialists for dinner! These two amazing people live & work in Africa studying big cats, crocodiles, elephants…really…you name it! This evening was particularly special to Ben’s sister Abby who is currently working for the Costal Humane Society in Maine. It was awesome getting to hear their stories of how they treat the big, wild animals, because she does the exact same thing but on a smaller scale with cats & dogs (& baby seals…yeah she’s pretty cool).

Ben was pretty much in charge of the dinner, & my job was to pick the wine. I wanted to make sure to get a white wine because we were having chicken (even though Abby & I both drank the red) & made the decision to get a Riesling. Once the dinner party was underway & I had poured both guests a glass of the Riesling, I started to get nervous that I chose a bad wine (if that’s possible…idk), until finally they spoke up & said this was their favorite kind of wine! *WIN* I felt very proud and distinguished that I correctly picked out the perfect wine for the evening. *big round of applause*

After the dinner party was finished, I took off my headscarf *tears* & went to bed before our final full day in Africa.

Day 7: Ouidah

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In the morning, we woke up slow & I was able to take a little bit of time to get ready. I decided to do my hair in braids, but I started off by spraying my roots with my new favorite dry shampoo. In a book I have been reading recently called, The Way She Wears It by Dallas Shaw, it prompted me to respond with my “signature scent” & my answer was Nirvana Rose. Then when they came out with a dry shampoo, I knew I had to have it immediately! (I mean, it’s my signature scent…) I brought a travel size bottle with me to Benin, & it was a lifesaver. It kept my hair looking fresh (even on a “day two” like this one) & smelling amazing. If you try this one and get scared that it goes on white, don’t worry, it shakes out like a dream. It works it’s magic while letting your hair keep it’s rich color.

After braiding my hair in double dutch braids & merging them into one braid at the end, I got dressed & we headed out on a day trip to Ouidah.

The drive to Ouidah was definitely something. Like most roads outside the city of Cotonou, driving through the endless ditches & potholes is treacherous. Some of the potholes are, no joke, the size of my car! (yes, it’s a mini, but still..that’s big!) My car would never survive in Benin.

Once we got to Ouidah, Yanick brought out his flying drone which instantly attracted a crowd. They all wanted to see the drone & watch it fly. After hanging out with the kids again for a bit, we went inside the café, again, at the Fondation Zinsou (just the Ouidah location) for a cup of tea & a sweet snack before our next adventure.

***I now have to take a moment to appreciate my eyelashes, or rather the mascara that worked wonders on my eyelashes. A few days before I left for Benin, I went to Walgreens in search for the new Lash Paradise mascara (which I now own…yes, it’s amazing too…still deciding which one I like more), but they didn’t have it in store yet, so my friend in the beauty department suggested I try the Thick & Fast mascara by Soap & Glory. I had never tried their mascara before, only the Pillow Plump (which you know I love), so I bought it…& man, does it work! This mascara was the only one I brought with me on this trip, & it held up beautifully. I performed in it, cried in it, sweat in it, etc. & not to brag, but my lashes look bomb in some of these pictures. I had never looked at pictures & noticed my eyelashes until this trip. Just can’t say enough. The picture below speaks for itself. Interruption complete***

We then met up with our guide who took us on a tour of the history of this city. First, we started with the Voodoo Temple of Pythons, where we learned about the rituals & sacrifices made there as well as going into a whole room filled with pythons! I even held one around my neck! They told us that once a month, they open the doors of the temple & let the pythons free into the city. Eek! I’ll hold one once, but I’m not so sure about them rolling around the city, finding them in my house, & then bringing them back to the temple. Maybe I would get used to it?

Then our guide took us on a very solemn tour down the historic road where tragically over one million African men, women, & children were sold, bought, chained, stripped, beat, raped, & forced to walk down to the port along the ocean to be sent abroad. It was surreal & eyeopening to actually be there where they walked, or to be there under the very same tree where they were sold as property. I can’t imagine having my freedom stripped from me like that. We also learned that their own people & leaders were the ones selling them! I couldn’t believe that. As hard as it was, I’m glad I was able to see what I saw, & hear the facts straight from the source as opposed to the receiving end in the states.

After another hour long bumpy drive home, we decided to go out to dinner. We went to a local restaurant and sat outside where we met some amazing ladies from the Peace Corps. I love hearing people’s life stories & hearing what they do & what lead them to do what they do, so encounters like these are the best. I sat across from a girl about my age who is working with the Peace Corps to help educate the women of Benin in sexual health, prevention, & family planning. Many women in Benin end up having more children than they can support & take care of, or they die in childbirth because there are not enough midwives (or blood) to help in a crisis.

On this trip, I met so many incredible people who are doing incredible things in West Africa. It made me ask myself this question: What meaningful work am I doing in my life?

My challenge to you, is to ask yourself that same question. No, you don’t have to move to Africa to do meaningful things (but you can, & if you do, that’s amazing!) But what are you doing, wherever you are, that matters? (If you are doing something meaningful & would like to share, I’d love to hear it! Send me an email to felixandflorablog@gmail.com! I would love to hear your heart on whatever the matter.)

Day 8: Shopping & Wheels Up for Paris!

On our last day in Africa, before our evening flight, we went out for some last minute shopping. We bought some more fabric & bits to take home for friends & family, then we packed our bags and were off!

What an amazing trip we had. It wasn’t near long enough, but there’s chatter about returning for more dancing in the future…only time will tell.

If you’ve made it this far in my post, congratulations, & thanks for reading about my journey. I have one more honorable mention before I let you go. Every morning for the past 30 days, I have started my day with Skinade which is a skincare supplement drink I was sent and have been absolutely loving. Before I started with Skinade, I religiously took Emergen-C every single morning to help me stay healthy and boost my immune system. This drink is the total package. It’s packed with collagen, vitamin C, MSM, vitamin B complex, omegas 3 & 6, & L-lysine. Here’s the kicker: it actually tastes good! I’m totally loving it so far & I’m sad I only have 5 days of my pack left. I definitely recommend this product, though having a high price, I am loving the results I see from using it. If you’re interested at all, just click the link to read more. *This is not a sponsored post. Just genuine thoughts on a current product I’m using*

Friday Five Beauty Heroes

(+ Skinade ^)

Africa Outfits

Travel Spa

*Huge thank you to Yanick Folly for some of my gorgeous photos above:

#(s) 10, 14, 26, 30, 32-40, 52-55, & 75*

Stay tuned for my Benin Travel Video!

Coming soon…

Friday Five – Lessons From My Mom

Hello Everyone!
It’s Mother’s Day weekend, & what better way to show some love & appreciation to my wonderful mamma than to reflect on some key life lessons she has taught me over the years.
My mom & I are very close & talk almost every day, so there are endless amounts of lessons learned from her, but today, I want to share 5 with you. (Imagine that…;))
1. Show Them Your Passion
My mom has been my biggest fan & my emotional support system during my career as a professional dancer. In fact, she is coming to NYC today to watch me perform at the Joyce Theater! But before it was my job, I had countless performances, showcases, summer intensives, & auditions where I had to prove myself as a dancer. It took a lot of guts & confidence boosting, which my mamma was & still is always so good at doing. The one phrase she repeated to me time after time was, “Show them your passion”. In that moment, hearing those words, I was calm, I knew that I could go out there and pour my heart out because even if I messed up, I always had someone who believed in me.
Thank you, mom, for never doubting me, & always lifting my spirits to push me toward my goal.
2. Kiss Lots Of Boys
When I was in middle school & early high school, I had the plan that I wasn’t going to kiss anyone until I was engaged to them. I know…I was crazy. I never wanted to casually date. I was very serious about finding my husband. But let’s be honest, what middle schooler or even high schooler is husband material? My mother, knowing this (even though she married her high school sweetheart), encouraged me to kiss lots of boys! I thought she was crazy for saying that at the time, but what a valuable lesson, am I right? I mean, I haven’t kissed lots of boys, but it freed me from searching for a “husband”, & instead finding a best friend (and a good kisser…)
Thank you for saving me from a potential disaster! 😉
3. Break the (Fashion) Rules
I went to an extremely strict school (on my own accord, I am weird & love rules) with a ridiculously strict dress code. One of the rules being no holes in your jeans. Because of this rule, every time my mom came to my school, she would wear her ripped jeans, just because she could. & she rocked them! What a great lesson in fashion. Don’t wear something because someone else likes it or not wear something because someone says it’s wrong. Fashion is an expression of your personality, wear it because it makes you happy.
Thanks mom for encouraging me to break the fashion rules!
4. Love Pretty Things
I like to say I’ve inherited my love of flowers, candles, & capturing photos from my mom. I have such fond memories of seeing my mom working in the garden, & our house filled with warm scented candles. She still loves candles, & when either of us finds a particularly “yummy” one, the other MUST get it. My love of photos & capturing every moment, I’m sure, comes from watching my mom work for hours on end to beautifully craft personalized scrapbooks for my siblings & I. Savoring those memories and turning them into works of art, hmmm seems familiar…
Thanks mom for instilling the love of beautiful things. They brighten my day just like you.
5. Be Kind
Honestly, my mom has taught me so much about kindness. About genuine love even for those I’ve never met. Every single person deserves love & kindness even if they haven’t show those things to me. Kill them with kindness, if you will. The best part is, she hasn’t taught me kindness with just her words, but through her life. I’ve seen it displayed even when it’s hard. It challenges me to reflect on who I am and how I treat other people.
Thank you for for being someone I can always look up to. I am so proud to call you my mom.

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Show some extra love to your mom this weekend!
What is the best thing your mom has taught you? xx
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Friday Five – For The Love Of Quirk

Hello Everyone!
I’m keeping this week’s post short and sweet.
Thank all of you lovely people who came out to support me and the Richmond Ballet at Quirk Hotel this past week. I had such a wonderful time engaging in great conversation while getting my fill of rosé (of course, I had the pink wine). After arriving a few minutes late due to a certain furry friend who did not want to get into her crate, I quickly realized that this wasn’t your normal “wine tasting”, but a four glasses of wine kind of evening. So we undoubtedly had a swell time. 😉
I wasn’t able to take many pictures during the actual event, but afterwards, some fellow Richmond Ballet dancers (Valerie, Maggie, and Eri) and I went up to the rooftop that is finally open! A fast favorite spot of mine for the spring/summer for sure. If you live in Richmond and have not been, you’re missing out.
Below are my top 5 pictures from the evening. I am just so in love with the ambiance, color scheme, and the overall classy, yet quirky vibe of this gorgeous hotel. What a fun night we had.
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Hope you all have had a lovely week!
What plans do you have for this Easter weekend? I cannot wait to finally wear my dress! Huge thank you to everyone who voted. xx
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